The First Step In Creating Your Best Life
Everyone has the right and the capacity to live their best life, only if he/she has the courage to create and take responsibility of it.
I used to blame others of my misery, thinking they are the ones who cause me unhappiness, thinking that life is unjust to me. I used to say that nobody understands my situation and wonder why I have such bad lucks. I have blamed my mom, dad, sister, brother, situations, friends, other people.. You name it!
Until one day, I begin to say “I create everything that happens in my life, may it be good or bad.” So, if something unpleasant happens, I’d say.. “Hmm, I must have done something that created or attracted this.” But then, if something magical happens during the day, I’d say the exact same thing too.
If it’s never our fault, we can’t take responsibility for it.
If we can’t take responsibility for it, we’ll always be its victim.
- Richard Bach
So, I decided sometime ago, everytime a misfortune trip me over, I’m just gonna smile and giggle a bit, saying.. “Ha ha ha, I must have thoughts or done something in the past that cause this.” Then, I thank God for reminding me of this awareness. I let the misfortune go and instead of being upset, I laugh. Then I find the inspiration to focus on the good things in life again. So, I put my shades back on, turn on my radio, sing my heart out while enjoying the traffic in Jakarta.
So dear friend,
assess the situation that you’re in at this moment. Have a series of bad luck, pain and sadness follow you? Or have you been experiencing beauty and inspirations? Or has it been a roller coaster ride of emotional tensions? Can u take the responsibility that you actually cause all this? Can you find the courage to admit that?
It is time to take a responsibility in your life, if you want this life journey to be your best one. Have the courage to say, admit, profess that:
- “I am wrong”
- “I actually created this myself, I don’t know how.. But I did. ”
- “I have blamed others.”
- “I have been jealous of others instead of doing something about it.”
- “I actually create and attract my own misfortunes.”
- “But that also means, I can actually create and attract all the fortunes, happiness and magical experiences in the future, starting from this moment”
Yes, I too have crashed into things, have things crashed on to me, got lost in my ways and mad at my brother for leaving my gas tank empty, hahahha. It’s so easy to blame other people, life and situations for our misfortune, no?
Not anymore. No more complaints, no more sulking. “If you have time to whine and complain about something then you have the time to do something about it.” – Anthony J. D’Angelo
It’s actually empowering to be in control – to take responsibility. And before you know it, you’ll start to tap into that joy within you and living your best life, one step at a time.
As it is said by Jim Rohn, “You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.” And that “The greatest day in your life and mine is when we take total responsibility for our attitudes. That’s the day we truly grow up,” said John C. Maxwell
Grab that steering wheel, put on your best shades and be an aware driver. Turn on that ignition, it is time to begin your best life journey.
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4 Comments
Nice one Ika. Some great quotes in there too.
“.. enjoying the traffic in Jakarta: – hahah. I’ve found that I have learned to adapt to it – not put myself in situations where it’s going to take a long time, and if I find myself in a jam, then i use the time to do something productive. And you’re right – it is empowering too !
Matt x
@matt: thanks matt! funny how you learn best from “unfortunate” situations, right?
You’re so strong and inspirational darling!
@Kelly: you’d never believe if i said, you’re definitely a big part of it hun. you are always there for me. i miss u heaps.. always..